How many partners? Am I bad?

[squirrely girl]

i've had this convo before and in my opinion it's never a "good" convo to have - somebody always gets hurt - like others have said, as long as you're committed now, why should it matter?

[Scandia]

I am dreading the day that I have to have this conversation.

Not on my side, because I do not make a secret of the fact that I'm in the same boat as JocelynC.

But on the other person's side.

I honestly do not know what would bother me more- a promiscuous period that you regret, or multiple intercourse times in many relationships (as compared to one or two) that were healthy but simply did not work out.

I would feel very uncomfortable with someone who is significantly more experienced than I am. As well as with someone who thinks he can have premarital sex because he's male, but expects his bride to be a virgin and requires it (as compared to someone who simply does not care about his wife's experience level). And of course- I do not want someone who will think less of me because of my lack of experience, which is simply by my choice.

Hopefully I will find someone who shares my morals in theory and in practice.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Scandia

As well as with someone who thinks he can have premarital sex because he's male, but expects his bride to be a virgin and requires it.

Around these parts, we call those guys "idiots."

Anyone who still espouses that sort of double standard is someone you shouldn't waste your time talking to for 3 minutes, let alone dating and definitely not marrying.

Now if he's remained a virgin too, that's all good.

Oh, and small number of partners doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't know what he's doing - especially if he was with the same girl for a long time and they had to find ways to spice things up.

[DeltAlum]

I'm sorry. I know this is a cheap shot, but please take it in the fun manner in which it intended.

But...

Where were you women when I was in college?

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally Posted by DeltAlum

I'm sorry. I know this is a cheap shot, but please take it in the fun manner in which it intended.

But...

Where were you women when I was in college?

They hadn't even been born yet, lol.

This is never a good conversation topic so I suggest you avoid it entirely.

[Agdee]

If someone asked me this question (after two marriages and two kids), I'd tell him that obviously, if I'd sleep with him, I'd sleep with anybody.

Then again, I'm cynical that way!

[lilsunshine214]

My boyfriend and I are each other's one and only. I've always said I was going to have my one and only at the end of the aisle, we just haven't gotten to the whole aisle part yet.

[KDAngel]

By no means am I promiscuous, but I can see how you have 30some partners and while growing up that number would have sounded huge to me, now I think differently... and as not to get people judging me, check your pm's.

[squirrely girl]

co sign the above

[shinerbock]

Thirty sounds high coming from a girl to me. That being said, I don't think its unrealistic, its just that no sorority girl around here would ever claim that many.