How many partners? Am I bad?

[Scandia]

I am dreading the day that I have to have this conversation.

Not on my side, because I do not make a secret of the fact that I'm in the same boat as JocelynC.

But on the other person's side.

I honestly do not know what would bother me more- a promiscuous period that you regret, or multiple intercourse times in many relationships (as compared to one or two) that were healthy but simply did not work out.

I would feel very uncomfortable with someone who is significantly more experienced than I am. As well as with someone who thinks he can have premarital sex because he's male, but expects his bride to be a virgin and requires it (as compared to someone who simply does not care about his wife's experience level). And of course- I do not want someone who will think less of me because of my lack of experience, which is simply by my choice.

Hopefully I will find someone who shares my morals in theory and in practice.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Scandia

As well as with someone who thinks he can have premarital sex because he's male, but expects his bride to be a virgin and requires it.

Around these parts, we call those guys "idiots."

Anyone who still espouses that sort of double standard is someone you shouldn't waste your time talking to for 3 minutes, let alone dating and definitely not marrying.

Now if he's remained a virgin too, that's all good.

Oh, and small number of partners doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't know what he's doing - especially if he was with the same girl for a long time and they had to find ways to spice things up.